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| Wed, 10-26-2005 - 5:38pm |
Well, I started seeing this guy about 10 months ago at my job. But then I moved to another state to go back to school for my masters. He currently lives about 5 hours away from me. We continued our relationship with the long distance thing. However, my brother met him once and he didn't really like him. He thinks my bf does not have common sense and etc etc. I am the youngest kid in the family. There is only one older brother who pretty much care A LOT for me. For example, if I don't check in with him once a week he freaked out. I am 24, and my bf is also 24. My brother is 28 and married.
My question is.. I have some doubt about this whole relationship thing.. I mean I know whoever I'd ended up with isn't going to be living with my brother. However, I feel really guilty to date someone that he doesn't like. The thing is I really like this guy..although there is a thing about the money differences between us. As I said, I am pretty much the usual youngest kid spoiled (I try not to be).. and his family is more.. you need to be independent and such.. you get the picture. I personally don't have a problem with money issues,,,I figure he's responsible and I'll be working also...but I think my family might think that he should provide things for me. Should I keep dating him, or should I just break up with him because I think there's no hope?
My question is.. I have some doubt about this whole relationship thing.. I mean I know whoever I'd ended up with isn't going to be living with my brother. However, I feel really guilty to date someone that he doesn't like. The thing is I really like this guy..although there is a thing about the money differences between us. As I said, I am pretty much the usual youngest kid spoiled (I try not to be).. and his family is more.. you need to be independent and such.. you get the picture. I personally don't have a problem with money issues,,,I figure he's responsible and I'll be working also...but I think my family might think that he should provide things for me. Should I keep dating him, or should I just break up with him because I think there's no hope?

At the end of the day, you must make your own decisions. With that, you must also decide how much of an influence your family will have on you. And that's a really personal choice. For me, I know if my brother objected heavily I would consider my choice before jumping. But that's also because I know my brother doesn't get involved in my business unless he sees me going down a bad road. But even with that, at the end of the day the choice is mine.
As for you, you can decide what you'd like to do... But the thing is, is the relationship becoming more serious or is there time for these choices? Take your time, weigh your options and see what is right for you.
Hope this helps. Keep us posted...