Feel Depress...

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Registered: 04-20-2003
Feel Depress...
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:58pm
I feel so sad now.. I don't feel like talking to anyone or doing anything.. I feel that I can't even talk to anyone now as if I have communication problem. My boyfriend just broke off our 2 and a half year on and off relationship. I felt so traumatize by it after doing so much and that person still felt I didn't do anything.. I can't talk to anyone because words would come around and nobody can seem to keep what we talk about to themselves. Not that I mind that they tell but it's just that words always come back to me and I get fustrated explaining to so many people about how I feel and my situation... Now it seems like my ex does not want to talk to me anymore because he is not answering my im.. I just thought that we could be friends or maybe I just come across as being too needy for this friendship and could not let go of him yet.. I feel so alone now.. I have no one to talk to...
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:12pm
I was so sorry to read your message. Break-ups really hurt but in time you will get over it. If I were you I wouldn't send him messages or attempt to call him, it will only hurt you more if and when he doesn't respond. I recently broke up with my husband... in fact our divorce was final one week ago but whenever the thought of that comes to mind I immediately try to think of all the rotten things he did to me and it helps... really, just start thinking of the jerky things he did and turn that hurt into anger. If you can't think about anything horrible he did, when thoughts of him come to mind try to think of something else... Don't let him live rent free in your mind; kick him out.. no vacancy here... You shouldn't stay home... go out with your friends, enjoy your freedom and you will find that there are many others that would feel blessed to know you. Best of luck to you.
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Registered: 04-20-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:00pm
thanks..for your help..I appreciate it..but somehow I seem to get others bored too...
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:09pm
Don't say that, you are just feeling down right now. I am sure that your friends would be happy to listen to you during your time of hurt. I would be there for my friends and believe me they have been there for me; many times. You may think they are bored but I bet they wouldn't be. Talk to them, you would be surprised at how supportive most good friends can be. That clown doesn't deserve your tears... He will realize some day how good he had it and maybe by then you will be strong enough to tell him to hit the road jerk.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:23pm
If you dont feel like talking or doing anything, you very well may be depressed...as in clinically.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 2:00pm
If you want to communicate with someone, the best thing to do is not an IM, but a phone calll. If you feel like you need some kind of "closure" with the ex-bf, then call him to talk. Sometimes, you just need to get a few things sorted out. Maybe you could meet him for coffee and chat sometime. But the best thing to do is try to get on with your life.

Did he say he wants to remain friends?

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Registered: 04-20-2003
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 5:19pm
He said it's not a good idea to see each other but could talk online.....Everything has been sort out already.. We already explain all the reasons why we can't be together...I'm just feeling so down...