Feeling so used, what should a girl do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Feeling so used, what should a girl do?
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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 3:44pm
I just don't seem to understand why in 7 years of marriage my husband will only have sex with me if he initiates it only. Does any one relate or have the answer????

Every time, no matter what, when or how if I approach him, it is always, "No, later, or I am exhausted and I want to but just can't."

I am beginning to ask for a surgeon who can make my mind and body not crave sex or him anylonger!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2004
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 9:53pm
My ex was like this also. Seems he got turned off by the fact that a woman comes on to him. I guess in some way he wants to believe that his woman is innocent and has no desire to pursue sex.

I would sprinkle some viagra in his dinner everynight, that way you won't have to initiate; he will always be ready. LOL, make sure he isn't on any heart medications!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2004
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 2:14pm
A few questions...

Have you asked him? If so, what does he say? If not, what is holding you back from asking him?

A~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 9:10pm
Evidently he wants his needs met, but doesn't care about yours. That's selfish.

Ask him why he feels this way. Tell him that you are available for him, why isn't he available for you. He very well be not able to get it up because he is exhausted or is simply not able to make an erection. YOu should find out.

Get a sex toy for your sexual tension. That is another way to resolve your situation. good luck