Feelings for Divorced Man

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Feelings for Divorced Man
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 10:55am
My guy friend went through a divorce a few months ago and lately I've developed feelings for him that I would like to explore. I'm not looking for something serious (and he's newly divorced). Just to get to know him better. What can I say to him to let him know how I feel without scaring him off?
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Registered: 07-28-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 12:37pm
If he's newly divorced you should just back off for now. From what I know about newly divorced people, they are not ready to start dating anyone. Do yourself a favor and just be friends with him and don't mention any feelings you have for him. All you'll end up doing is being the rebound chick and nobody wants that title!
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Registered: 02-27-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 4:37pm

I reccomend staying friends, right now he's not emotionally ready for a new relationship, and again you don't want to be the rebound. I've been there and it's no fun, stay the same be his friends and allow him some time to figure things out. All the best,
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:01pm
You say you are not looking for anything serious. A newly divorced man may be looking for a little action, but will not be emotionally available for a while. So if you do decide to hang out, go for drinks it could lead to sex. If you are confident you can stay emotionally detached then proceed with caution.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 7:16am

It's just been a few months , it sounds like you might be rebound, would that really make you comfortable? How well do the two of you know each other? How much do you care? First be aware of your motives and desires before broaching it to him.

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