Female radar. Can you tell?

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Female radar. Can you tell?
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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 2:00am
Female radar. Can you tell if a guy isn't getting any?

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I guess you can never really know for sure, but is there some vibe you get from men who are getting some on a regular basis AND, does that matter at all? Would you be less attracted to a handome man if you got the vibe he hadn't had any in a while?

Well, maybe you wouldn't be less attracted to a man who wasn't getting any, but would you be MORE attracted to man who was sexually active? (not that you would actually and conciously be turned on by a man who you knew was getting sex, but is there some validity to a guy who gets it all the time?)

not sure i explained that right, but i think you know what im trying to get at.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 4:47pm
Hi,

I hope I understood what you were saying... Are you asking if women can tell when a man is not getting any? I sure can't. Also, if I did and I knew a guy was getting it and he was a player, I would be more inclined to focus on the guy who isn't. Who wants a guy who can't focus on one woman at a time? I don't. Lucy

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 4:57pm
I think most people in relationships exude more confidence because they are feeling good about themselves. So maybe that is what you are reffering to?

I know I am weary of guys who are overly trying to hit on me, whether or not they have had any for a while- it's the feeling of "I just really want to take SOMEONE home tonight" that turns me off. I, as a rule, don't go home with strangers, let alone someone I met at a bar.

But a guy who seems confident and walks with his head up and smiles is definetly going to catch my eye.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 12:35am
Ok Fab, I'm reading between the lines here and could be way off, but here goes....

What you're saying is....?....

You're not getting any and you're hoping girls can't tell you're not getting any, but you're unsure how to look like you ARE getting some without looking like a player. And you're not sure where to draw the line between looking like you're coming on too strong coz you're desperate, or that you're coming on too strong coz you're getting so much and no woman could possibly resist you?

At face value, I know what you meant and here's my take on it...people generally feel more attractive when they're having sex - somebody wants them, so their ego is boosted. Naturally, they're going to have an air of confidence about them (to a degree, because some people are naturally more confident than others, sex or not).

I wouldn't necessarily be more attracted to a guy who's getting sex from various sources (unless he's open about it with everybody, I'd question his integrity), but then a guy who's happy with what he's getting from a single source isn't about to be getting out seeking it elsewhere either.

I'd be more attracted to the guy who's confident, treats me respectfully and is interested in my needs as well...whether he had sex the night before, or 6 months before, it's not all that relevant. What is is how he treats me from that point on.

Is that what you were asking?