Female roommate??

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Female roommate??
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Thu, 11-25-2004 - 2:27am
I met this great guy this past weekend and he called me Tuesday and asked me out for this coming weekend. He seems to be so much of what I am looking for in a long term partner. He has a female roommate and when he told me that, my antenae went up immediately. It makes me uncomfortable but I am going out with him anyway with an open mind. Does anyone here have any gut reaction to this type of situaiotn/arrangement? If I started to date him seriously, how would I deal with the situation? I have a feeling I would just have to see if there is anything to be threatened by. If not, then maybe its a non-issue. Any thoughts?? Thanks.
Alison
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Registered: 06-05-2004
In reply to: alimery
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 8:33am
Just my $.02 but for many years after I got out of school and in my first job I became very good friends with a co-worker, (Male) and we decided to become roommates. It was strictly platonic. I enjoyed his company and felt safe knowing a guy lived in the same house as I did and whenever he brought girlfriends home, while at first they all looked uncomfortable around me and watched our interactions like hawks, eventually they realized that it was truly just a good friendship. He was able to give me advise on guys I dated and I did same for him.. it was actually great. In fact, we were in each other's weddings. Just to be clear, his wife chose me to be a part of the wedding party and my husband chose him because we all became very good friends. To this day, even though my husband and I have divorced, he and my male friend remain friends. I understand your concerns but please don't jump to conclusions. When you visit him, do observe how 'good' they get along and base your judgement on that and not on the fact that two members of the opposite sex live under the same roof. Take care. Lucy
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In reply to: alimery
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 12:52pm
I live in a crowded cosmopolitan area and having mixed gender housemates is 'normal'. Depending on the household, they'll have their separate lives or will be in each other pockets and doing stuff together socially, too.
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Fri, 11-26-2004 - 1:38am
I just wanted to thank the 2 people who posted here in response to my post. I actually agree and needed a reality check. Thank you so much. I am looking forward to going out with this guy and I will keep the boeard posted on how it goes! Hope everyone had a wonderful turkey day!
Alison :)