First "anniversary" presents important??
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First "anniversary" presents important??
| Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:32am |
I've been in a relationship now for a year after having been divorced for almost three years..he's basically a very nice man, lives about fifty minutes away and visits me every weekend..I have the house , he an aptmt after his divorce...bascially I know he's on the cheap side and am slowly working on that issue..lately he was always bringing up the fact that our first anniversary was coming up and he even wanted to go to the same restaurant we met at and wear the same clothes as the first meeting etc.which I and my friends thought was a cute idea..soooo I thought fine I think I will make sure I have a present for him ..made a special trip and bought him a very nice shirt and a very nice new leather wallet...well the day came and he comes over here..no flowers..no present..I must say he had brought me flowers two weeks prior just because...when he saw my present he said..oh goddddd now I just dug my "grave" deeper meaning one more reason to dump him...I didn't say much at first but when we were in the car later on I just "lost" it..saying I can't believe I didn't even get flowers and that I don't think I'm special to him and what is even most embarrassing is that he will look real bad in front of my friends when they ask what I got for my first "anniversary"..etcetc...he said he doesn't know why he's so stupid sometimes he just does not think..his brain disconnects..I was going to say yeah when it comes to money it disconnects but of course I didn't.....he thought we were going out for dinner for the anniversary and for a drink or two afterwards yadayada( big deal dinner cause I cook for him and fix dinners too a lot )...anyway I DO know he feels terrible and he profusely apologized..I said maybe he's trying to tell me by this that he does not want me to view our relationship as THAT serious although he keeps telling me how if I ever dumped him he'd be devastated..he has of course rushed off to buy me a nice little ring but now I feel bad about being so stupid and needy...is it wrong to want someone to show you how much they care for you by an occasional small present here or there? I don't demand diamonds like some girls do..I would just like to see that he thinks of me too like I think of him especially for an important thing like a first anniversary or Vday, bday etc. one of my friends is mad at me saying how could you ruin what was supposed to be a romantic evening by acting like this...well I must say that we have certainly "grown" from this and he got the message..I told him that I am just educating him for any other women he might ever be with as to how to act...how do others feel about giving/getting presents in a relationship..?
