First Broken Heart, Confused
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First Broken Heart, Confused
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 6:36pm |
My boyfriend of two years dumpted me last Thursday. It was a bad situation but I did love him very very much. It was an online relationship and we had hoped it would progress into one day meeting. I did have conformation and I was certain he was who he was and not some kind of stalker. We had a strong relationship up until this April. We had an arguement about how we needed to spend more time together in person. He is in the Navy and moves around a lot, yes he is several years older than me, and he hadn't told me that he had to go overseas in over a year. So we fought. We fought up until last Thursday when he dumpted me. Ever since the fight he had become irrateable and almost unapproachable, there would be sometimes when he became a shadow of how he once was but it never lasted long. I tried to talk to him explain why I couldn't just pick up and leave right now. I didn't want it to end. We clicked together. I told him and I was trutful that I would wait as long as it took for him to come back from overseas, but he would have none of it. And now he has dumpted me, and I feel so lost and alone. I wrote him a two page letter and poured my heart out and all he said was he was sorry but he could not take me back. I love him so very much and he told me that he loved me. But now I am left with only my pain and memories. He says he wwants to remain friends but I don't know how to deal with this. I built my world around him and now that he is gone my world has come crumbling down. I don't know what to do I just feel so lost and I've cried for two or three days everytime I think of him. What should I do?
Signatures On
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:30pm |
Dear heartbroken, you seem to have fallen in love with a fantasy man. You mentioned it was an online relationship that lasted 2 years witouth meeting, so you fell in love with his pictures, cards and such, but not with the real man. I do understand the pain you're going through but this a lesson that you should take to heart: never believe 100% of what an "online relationship" tells you. Anyone can be anything over the net. He might have had some other relationships that became "real" and might have chosen those over the "fantasy" you two shared. As for "being frends" I would'nt recommended as you are in love with his image and he wants only frienship. First, take care of you and get over him, and then see if you want him to be your friend.
