first date after painful breakup

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Registered: 10-18-2003
first date after painful breakup
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Sun, 07-11-2004 - 12:13pm
Hallo :). I just came back from my 1st date since breakup! Went real well. We met for a drink and spent 2.5 hours together chatting, joking, telling stories (hmm...LOOOONG, huh?). I met him thru a friend and he seems real nice. The only thing that i'm not happy with is that it looks like another LDR - he lives in another city and from time to time jumps in where i live.

I have a bit of a weird feeling - i liked him and we both felt very easy around each other. At the end, he just gave me a ride and said it was great to meet me. I don't even know if i expected him to agree on another date before he leaves back to his place (in 2 days).

Anyway, i feel good about meeting him and me finally moving on after the breakup. Just not sure i want another LDR and not sure whether the guy will call me before he leaves.

not obsessing over this at all :), just going with the flow i guess. Would be interested to hear your views

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Registered: 07-10-2004
Sun, 07-11-2004 - 12:35pm
Good for you for getting out there again. Feel good that you are making strides to move on with your life. Just remember to take care of yourself and live your life. It's such a cliche, but the right person usually comes along when you're not actively looking for them! ;-)
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:15pm
he just hasn't called since yesterday date. hmm... and he is leaving the country on Wed morning. i know it's normal when i guy doesn't call right away after the date but in this case, things are a bit different - he'll be gone for a couple of weeks, then i'm off to france till end august. so we'll basically just communicate by e-mails (if he ever shows us again).. it would be good to have face-to-face before we both hit the road

am i just obsessing over nothing? :) just don't know what is it and where it's going. i guess i haven't dated for a while and forgot the "rules of the game"

this date was purely his initiative - he asked mutual friend to introduce him to me via e-mail, flew here, set up a date. and now soon leaving and i'm all left in wonder

he's real nice and i'm plain confused.. :)

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:42pm

I don't think you need be concerned about "where it's going" after 1 date, except to

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:57pm
thanks, Jilly. You are so right :)