First Date - no follow-up

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Registered: 12-14-2005
First Date - no follow-up
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 9:14pm
I went out on a really great first date nearly two weeks ago. I met this fellow at work several months ago when we were both working on the same unit in a hospital. Well, we ran into each other again a couple weeks ago and then he sent me an email asking me to lunch or coffee. We ended up having dinner after work and then, like high-schoolers, made out and talked in his car for a little while. I know that he is supremely busy at work. I invited him via email to a holiday party that I am hosting. He wrote back a brief response and asked how I was doing. I responded and I haven't heard back...that was Friday. My holiday party is this Sunday. I suppose he's not coming, right? Plus, I have to see him at work tomorrow. How do I act? I've never been so surprised by no follow-up...he was so flirty! -----> Disappointed!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2005
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 9:56pm
just act normal.... no reason not to.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 12:50am

Sorry, hon.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2005
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:43am
Thanks very much. I know you're right. Still perplexing. We have things in common! However, I must move on! :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-05-2005
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:16pm

I've been posting these last few weeks about a "3 date wonder" I had.........I too, thought ,everything was going great.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:23pm

Yo never really know what is going on in someone's life. Alot of guys are in the moment and then other moments intervene. However it was extremely rude of him to respond to your invite email without actually responding to the invite! At this point write him off and if you're pleasantly surprsied, then great. Holidays are a time when people are busy. Enjoy your party in any case. Ask women to bring single men!


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Registered: 10-12-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 11:43pm
That's what happened with me. I thought I had a terrific connection with this guy. Our date went a little sour the second day (he stayed over which was a mistake I now see) and I haven't heard from him since except a quick email a week ago. I'm disappointed but it's better to find this out now than months down the road. Just be glad you never got too intimate with him because I did and now I feel like I was just a booty call for him. Weeks before we were talking on the phone every night, emailing all the time, then nothing.