First Date Non-Jitters
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First Date Non-Jitters
| Wed, 03-10-2004 - 2:54pm |
I just had my first date last night with a guy I met online. Actually, this was my first date as an adult (I was in a 5-year relationship throughout college until recently).
He's funny, he's attractive, he seems to be financially and mentally stable, I didn't get any psycho/loser vibes from him.
Our date was nice. We ended up having the entire restaurant to ourselves, the conversation went pretty well - few slow periods. Plenty of laughs, and no major no-nos...no ex talk, he wasn't rude, etc. He even through out the idea of going out again sometime this weekend, despite all the dating faux pas I'm sure I committed. And I could easily envision us going out again.
So basically I had this wonderful date - especially given it being my first. But the thing is, I don't care if I never see him again????
He's funny, he's attractive, he seems to be financially and mentally stable, I didn't get any psycho/loser vibes from him.
Our date was nice. We ended up having the entire restaurant to ourselves, the conversation went pretty well - few slow periods. Plenty of laughs, and no major no-nos...no ex talk, he wasn't rude, etc. He even through out the idea of going out again sometime this weekend, despite all the dating faux pas I'm sure I committed. And I could easily envision us going out again.
So basically I had this wonderful date - especially given it being my first. But the thing is, I don't care if I never see him again????
At first I would assume this is a complete lack of chemistry issue, but it's not. There was something there, of that I'm sure. But I can't figure out why I'm so blase about it? Has this ever happened to anyone before? What does it mean?

However, you need to be sure of your feelings. Is it (a) you DON'T feel ANY desire to see the man again, or (b) you could take him or leave him?
If it's (a), don't see him anymore. You can tell him you're sorry but you don't think you two are a match. And thank him for the date.
If it's (b), I would definitely go out with him at least 2 more times. If after you've been out 3 times and you still feel NO chemistry... no spark at all... you probably should move on. Maybe he will turn out to be a better buddy than lover.
Good luck.