First Date Questions

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Registered: 01-27-2006
First Date Questions
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:15am

Dating is not my forte, although I am striving to become better at it.

I met a guy last night from online. We emailed back and forth just for a day and minimal discussion. He called me last night and invited me out for a drink around 9pm, we chatted for about an hour and a half over a beer. Things seemed good, we talked about the area we lived in, family, school, growing up. It was lively or so I thought it was. Around 10:45pm he mentioned that he had to be up by 5:45am to get to work so we wrapped things up. He then extended his hand to shake mine and said it was very nice meeting you, give me a call sometime and we can go surfing. Okay so we shared that as a common interest. This is the second time I have been given that line at the end of the date, "let's go surfing". Not sure if I should take this as a blow off or genuine considering I wouldn't think that to be a second date. So I am curious of other people's outlook on this?

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:34am
"I'd love to go surfing with you, I'm free Sunday at 1PM, why don't you give me a call on Saturday afternoon so we can firm things up."
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:39am

peppy0412...

Quick quote from Pianoguy:

"One date doesn't mean a permanent relationship!"

The words you see on the computer screen don't always "match" the image who is sitting across from you at a restaurant table! Go about your day-to-day business and see if there's a 2nd invitation from this man?

But above all...STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN! Every social situation WON'T have a:

"...and they lived happily ever after" ending!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:51am
This sort of thing happens a lot on first dates. Maybe he felt the two of you didn't "click". Who knows? But usually when you get nothing but a handshake, the guy is not thinking long term dating with you. Just sit back, and see if he calls.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 11:20am

I would definitely take that as a blow off. Guys who are really interested in seeing you again don't ask you to call them, they call YOU, or even arrange for a 2nd date while you're still on the 1st date.

Sheri