First Date Sex?

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Registered: 09-10-2006
First Date Sex?
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 1:57am
I'm afraid I may have messed up and need some advice please. I met a guy online about 2 weeks ago. We exchanged emails, pics, then instant messaged, talked on the phone and finally decided to meet. During our phone calls there was a lot of flirting and the talk got a little sexual. I explained to him though that I wasn't that type of girl and I didn't want him to get the wrong idea about me. And it is true that I'm not like that. I've only had sex with two people and those were relationships. So, we met and the sexual chemistry was crazy. We ended up making out in my car and then because we both have family living with us, we went to a hotel and ended up having sex. Afterwards I drove him back to his car and before getting out he kissed me and asked me if I was going to call him tomorrow. I told him I would if he wanted me to and he said he did. So, the thing is that I'm worried that he is going to look down on me and not have respect for me now. I'm also afraid he is going to think I'm easy and not believe that I haven't really done this before and I'm afraid he won't be interested anymore. Any thoughts?
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 09-10-2006 - 9:32am

I can't tell you what this guy is thinking because I'm not him. Quit assuming that anyone is looking down on you, he was in that room too so if you are so easy, so is he. If he didn't want sex he wouldn't have taken you to a hotel.

The only person that needs to respect you is you. You will only know if he is interested if you call him and find out.

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sun, 09-10-2006 - 11:06am
One question I'm surprised nobody asked; Why doesn't HE call you???
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Registered: 07-06-2006
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 6:00pm
I'm wondering the same thing...
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 11:42pm
IMPO, you both enjoyed the sex as consenting adults, so why worry now? Do you look down on him now that you both had sex? Why are you worrying about him looking down on you? If you want to call him, then call him and meet at a non-sexual site, such as a restaurant. Talk and get to know each other. Talk about the sexual encounter and such AND mention that you're rather get to know him better before attempting to get into bed again. See his reaction. He may be a good guy who'd like to get to know you better as well.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 8:57pm

Why did he want you to call him vs him calling you?

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 1:31pm
oh geez, why do people always read into the, he asked me to call him line so much? maybe he was feeling insecure as well. I dont think that part is a huge deal. Just call him and take it from there. Dont get in the habit of calling him all the time without him calling you, but you know what i mean.