first date - should I go?

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Registered: 07-06-2004
first date - should I go?
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 12:47pm
I work at a women's clothing store, and a guy came in and asked me out. He was in there last weekend, but was with his ex-girlfriend and her mother, so he didn't want to approach me even though he thought I was cute. So he came back in this weekend to meet me and buy something for his sister, and he asked my co-worker that was helping him with his sale if I was single or not. She introduced him to me and we talked for a few minutes. He gave me his number and said that we should go out for a drink. Is going for a drink for a first date a bad sign? Is that even a date? Should I even go considering I hardly know the guy?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 3:52pm
Are you sure that was his EX gf? It seems strange to me that he'd shop with an ex and her mother, but I guess it could happen.

"Is going for a drink for a first date a bad sign?"

Not necessarily. If you're uncomfortable getting to know him in a drinking environment, why don't you suggest meeting for coffee instead of a drink? If he insists on a drink, then decline because he should want to meet you on your terms.

"Is that even a date?"

Think of it as a first meeting to get to know him rather than as a first date. Keep it short - no more than an hour. Make sure you have other plans afterwards and meet him at the coffee house - don't let him pick you up. If you have a cell phone, give him that number and not your home number if he asks for a way to reach you.



"Should I even go considering I hardly know the guy?"

How else would you get to know him? You might chat at some length when you call him before you agree to meet. One thing I would do is ask about his "ex" in a casual way to try and determine if she's really an ex.