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football or me?
| Wed, 08-11-2004 - 12:31pm |
I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 24. I'm in my last semester of college while my boyfriend graduated last year. I know guys take professional team sports very seriously, and that it's normal to be a big fan of a particular team. When my boyfriend of 17 months and i started going out, I know he's a big football fan (chicago bears, and some illinois college teams) but I never realized how BIG until a little further into our relationship. first of all, during football season, he schedules everything, even our dates, around game time. He took 2 days off work to watch pre-season games on tv. he also took another day off to come up to my school because our home football season opener happened to be on a Wednesday. He wouldn't have come up if it wasn't for that game. I asked him if he would take a day off work to see me on my birthday next month (which is on a weekday, and i'll be in school) and he said he doesn't have any days off left to do that! another thing that drives me crazy is how he remembers every last statistic or trivia about his teams but when it comes to us, simple things slip his mind, like our anniversary. i don't ask for anything more than a simple greeting or perhaps a quick e-mail but he never remembers.
A lot of my friends already graduated, and I am pretty much the only one "left" in our circle to still be in school. It would have meant a lot to me for him to come up and spend my birthday with me otherwise I would be alone that day. I'm not really against this hobby of his, but i would like to be fit into the schedule despite it being football season. i even got him Bears tickets for his birthday, to show that I am ok with it. he's fine any other time of the year but i can't help but feel like a pushover once the season starts. Is this normal or am i overreacting? Am i seeking too much?

You will just have to accept him as a crazy football fan or move on. I'm sure that he's not intending to forget you or make you feel bad. He's got this hobby that really excites him and I think it's great that he feels so strongly about something. You can either accept it and play along or find someone who doesn't feel passionately about anything but you.
Maybe get a shirt (jersey?) from his fav team and only wear that the next time the two of you are alone together?