Foreign Love - Dazed and Confused
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| Mon, 05-22-2006 - 6:51am |
I moved to France in January, 2006 and in March met a wonderful person. He has been married before so he is caught up in the I dont think that i can do this again. Which to state that I am not at that point after 2 months.There are two problems that i have in regards to this relationship:
1 he bases his past marriage and subsequent relationships on what he does in our relationship. I think that he has made strides in getting closer but then there is something else that i lose from him that he says keeps him safe and from being heartbroken again, as he gave his wife all and she took advantage of that ( divorced for three years)
2. he and i really dont spend any time alone anymore, it is him,his friends, and I. And i know that he does want to spend time with me but then its like i have to share it with his friends. And if they are drinking then they are constantly joking with each other and at times telling him that i am pretty and very nice girl why would he not want to eventually marry me , which gets him into the i will not marry again. Unfortunately neither he or I live in a place where there is privacy.
Should i just give up on the two of us. My friends say that the beginning of a relationship dictates how it will be throughout. Also he has recently sold his home and wishes to open a business here in France and would like me to open the business with him. I dont know if this is a good thing. Is it a sign that he wants to become more involved with me without saying so? How do i stop being dazed and confused?

When a guy says that he is not interested in a serious relationship and marriage, you need to believe him. The fact that he won't take you out alone for a romantic evening together solidifies his thoughts.
I am sure he wants to open a business with you, he's probably looking for cheap labor, an intelligent partner and start-up capital.
Time to move on.
Even if he cares about you and likes you, I can't see it going further. He has a lot of issues which will make things difficult for your relationship, and if he ever changes his mind it would be years. My experience is they hardly ever change their mind and you can't change them. Find someone who will meet your needs.
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