found the porn what to do?
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found the porn what to do?
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 9:22pm |
I mean I know that porn is normal, but for some reason I feel that if he has to look at another girl to "please" himself, then he cares less about me. It's no big deal or anything it's just I found some on his computer and it made me feel, well insignificant. I feel like I'm not good enough. He told me he only used it when I was gone for the weekend. It was only a weekend, I don't see why he can't wait for me, I could wait for him. How should I feel? Am I overreacting? What should I do?

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Married men read Playboy and have for generations.
Now that you can view porn on the internet it is always available.
Look at it with him and you can learn what he likes and this should enhance your sex life.
MB
What you're not looking at here is that he wasn't out looking for another woman. He was looking at a widely available porn media. There isn't a multi-billion dollar porn industry because only single men look! Be thankful that he was looking at a computer site, and not out at a bar picking up another woman.
So rather than get upset, why not join him to see what the fuss is about. I can guarantee you will BOTH be turned on by the experience!
You are NOT overreacting! I found my boyfriend to have the same problem, except, he TRIES to lie to me about it. I constantly find his "porn" on my computer and find him watching porno videos. I like to refer to it as "emotional infidelity" because the wear and tear these actions cause my self esteem and emotions are devastating. How can I (or any other reasonable, respectable, working female live up to the "Jenna Jamesons" and "Brianna Banks'" of the world?!?!) Not even that, but how are women supposed to "step it up" sexually and feel wanted when their men are constantly oogling other women?!?! I'm sorry to make this reply such a rant, but I think that men in this country (and the world over) need to be held to a higher standard in terms of their sexual urges and the way that they treat women. Not only are they objectifying women by constantly being obsessed with their sexuality, but they are also destroying their relationships by making the women they are with feel unwanted and unbeautiful. What a crock....he "couldn't wait". I have some advise to you....tell him to "be a man" and start thinking with his head (his UPPER head) if he cares about you and your feelings. Good luck to you...I anticipate a hard battle! -GAPeach
If you can categorically say something about every member of any group, then it is inherent to the nature of that group.
If the statement is true: "men the world over are obsessed with sexuality" then everyone, men and women, are going to have to devise some method to deal with it, or stop interacting with men.
MB
I didn't think there was anyone this day and age who did not watch porn with their SO or have phone sex or masturbate.
It is only a sign of extreme insecurity to think that this equates to infidelity.
The younger generations are much more open about it too.
Not like my parents generation where they hid the Playboy.
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