found the porn what to do?
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found the porn what to do?
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 9:22pm |
I mean I know that porn is normal, but for some reason I feel that if he has to look at another girl to "please" himself, then he cares less about me. It's no big deal or anything it's just I found some on his computer and it made me feel, well insignificant. I feel like I'm not good enough. He told me he only used it when I was gone for the weekend. It was only a weekend, I don't see why he can't wait for me, I could wait for him. How should I feel? Am I overreacting? What should I do?

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I was very young at the time and thought he wouldn't cheat on me because I was the "perfect" girlfriend.
Cheating is a character flaw of the man or women and generally men and women who lack a conscience and a need to feel powerful and in control.
It has nothing to do with how much porn they view or how many Playboys they read.
If someone is predisposed to cheat they cheat regardless if they watch porn, read playbody or go to strip bars.
I am sure since the 50's when Playbody was introduced it didn't incite every single man in the world to cheat.
Your x used it as an excuse to cheat and he used your weight as an excuse as well.
He was chatting with women on the net in very specific chat rooms.
His cheating had nothing to do with looking at porn or your weight. Which makes him an emotional abusive cheat.
People who cheat are narcisstic and not able to care how it affects anyone around them I am sure you now know the red flags to watch for in a man to determine their character.
I told my current boyfriend that what is special about him is his character which includes his honesty, loyalty, KINDNESS, and compassion and the fact that he is also cute, funny and sexy is icing on the cake.
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if you ask around you'll find that there are girls who whatch porn too...
porn doesn't make you less important. it's not like he's replacing you.
porn is like a fantasy. surely, you have fantasies too. it's just that your guy has been less than descrete about his. so, ok, maybe he wanted you to find them? share the experience with him? or maybe, they mean so little to him that he totally forgot they were there. or do you expect him not to look at anyone else at all?!
this is perfectly normal & common. stop making a big deal out of it. it doesn't make you insignificant.
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