Found Something On The Computer
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| Tue, 02-28-2006 - 12:28am |
Hello everyone I'll get right to the point. I discovered straight and gay porn on my computer yesterday and it wasn't from me or from the cat (LOL). As it turned out, my fiancé looked at the first page of a Latina porn site last Tuesday and looked at several pages of an Asian transsexual site last week, including a movie and the updated pictures. He was on that site for a total of 5 minutes. He hasn't looked at any porn since.
Obviously I confronted my fiancé about this and he said that he received both links through his AOL junk email. I asked him if he was bi-curious and he said no along with saying that he's not gay (actually he said that repeatedly). According to my fiancé, he looks through the transsexual site because he couldn't believe how much those guys looked like men and he though it was crazy . . . It should be noted that my fiancé has told me on several occasions that he's attracted to Asian women . . . .
I also asked him if he was looking at that straight site because he's no longer interested in me and/or he's looking for something (or someone) else and he said no. My fiancé stated that he only wants me, he's only attracted to me, and he only looked at that site to get more lingerie ideas for me. I also asked him why he looked at the straight site while I was away at work and he said because he didn't want to disrespect me. I also asked him if it would be OK if I looked at male porn on the computer and he didn't like that proposal. . . .
I also discovered that he visited some girl's Aol page. . . This girl is into bondage . . Also found a trail to a member's only sex group on yahoo. The fiancé says he doesn't know the girl and that he hasn't been on that group in over a year.
Should I believe him? More importantly, is he bi-curious or gay? Is this a deal breaker for our engagement? This is the first time I've had this problem with my fiancé. Help!


The only person that can answer any of your questions is really you. For me, it would be something I would keep my eye on. My ex-husband had a porn addiction and it was one of the things that led to the demise of the marriage. So it's really up to you what you could take.
I would take your time with it though. Breaking an engagement is not something that should be done in a quick snap decision, you know?
Sorry the answers aren't more specific, but it's almost impossible to tell if he's bi-curious or anything without knowing him. And if he were, would it be something you could deal with?