The "Friend"
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The "Friend"
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 3:25pm |
My boyfriend of 10 months has been talking to this girl. she is his friend, and I am fine with that. They talk through email. I have never met her. I am fine with him and her talking through email ( i trust HIM), but the other day I was getting online and his email was open, there was an email from her ( YES I READ IT... ou would have also!) it was talking about how he hasn't emailed her in 2 days and that I am a controlling bitch who never lets him do anything... blah blah blah. Well, she and I have NEVER met. I confronted him about it and told him it upsets me. He said he was mad at her. I never tell him what he can or can't do, or who he can and can't hang out with. I have not been able to get over this. I want him to stop talking to her. What should I do? Is it wrong of me? I have never had a problem with her, but now I will NEVER learn to like her. Please help me.

One thing is for certain I highly doubt that she came to the conclusion that you are controlling on her own, I'm pretty sure your boyfriend had something to do with that label. Usually women/men don't tell their friends those things, unless they KNOW that its okay to do so, so I'd have to wonder what your boyfriend has been telling her.
You can tell him not to see her anymore, some men will give up their friends, but some won't and if he doesn't be prepared for him to tell you to go pound sand and be out the door.
NOBODY said that you have to like her!
The question is...why does your b/f email her this much? It can't be "just a casual friendship" if this girl is jealous of you?
Or is your b/f humming the old Mary McGregor tune: "TORN BETWEEN TWO LOVERS?" Maybe it's time for a face-to-face chat with him?
Pianoguy
"CUZ YOU'RE A WO--MAN.....W---O---M---A---N.......I'll say it again..."
She wants ALL his attention and hates the fact that YOU have some of it!
Pianoguy
I would have seen it as a positive and turned up the lovelight...LOL If you were drawing him away, that is good for 10 months.
If he could learn to be who he is with you and break away from the PC, all the better. It takes time though.
I for one would not have read it unless he asked me to. I either trust or I don't. I only gather evidence if I am driving home a point before I move on.
There's my 2 cents.
Are you living together? Or were you visiting when you used his PC?
Good luck,
lightship