friend vs. boyfriend

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Registered: 07-13-2004
friend vs. boyfriend
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 1:01pm
about a year ago...my best friend's friend set me and my best friend up with two guys. the guy that was supposed to be her date was more into me. we ended up dating. we broke up after about 7 months. while i was dating him, i never really saw my best friend. she and my boyfriend HATE each other. we can not all hang out together because they will fight the whole time and i hate getting in the middle of it. i am still in love with him and we are going to get back together. she even talks bad about him to all my family and friends to make him look bad so they wont like him!! she is ABSOLUTELY FURIOUS because she says that he is not good enough for me. if i get back together with him then my best friend and i will probably not see each other anymore and no longer be friends. i dont know what to do because she would leave me in a heartbeat for a guy- but if i get serious with my boyfriend, she gets mad! i know she wants to stay friends but i feel like she will not like any guy i date. i mean i have to live my life and be happy right? im so happy with him and i want to be with him...i mean i will get married one day- and when that day comes..she will have to live her life so that i can live mine!! what do i do about this? if i stay friends with her then i cant truly be happy with my guy.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 1:21pm
Sounds like a classic case of jealousy on her part. She was supposed to be with the great guy you are dating. He didn't go for her, but they were originally supposed to be set up. No wonder she picks fights with him!

You have to decide what is more important to you? A friend who knows you inside out and has always been there for you, or a guy? You say that she would drop you like a hat under the circumstances, but you have done exactly that to her. What if you and the guy don't work out? Who do you turn to for solace?

You broke up with this guy once, you might want to think about why?

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