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Friends of 8 years
| Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:21pm |
I have been friends with this guy for 8 years. We're pretty close. We go out occasionly but in the last several months we have gone out more. Normally when we go out its usually with friends(we have the same friends. That is how we met.) were never alone till a few weeks ago. Which was very nice to spend alone time. Last night was our first deep converstaion that we talked about things in the past and the future, relationships, dating, families etc... We always tell each other everything and anything. Last night he said some things about what he is looking for has changed in the last few months. I thought to myself ok Im not the type of person hes looking for but deep down inside I know he is just saying those things cause I know him. We have nothing to hide besides how we feel about each other. Over the years friends of ours always keep asking me about us is there something between us cause we got along so well, were perfect for each other etc..... Well I decided to bring up some stuff that has been bothering me over the years with him if we want a future together cause both of of us are ready to settle down(may or maynot be with each other). We never really told each other how we felt besides hinting around here and there over the years. Well this morning I texted him to tell him what our friends say about us. That we should go for what we want, to open our eyse cause we have the person right in front of us etc... I dont think he had a clue. Now that I've told him I havent heard from him since. I feel that our friendship wont ever be the same or over with. The reason I have been keeping it all in cause I didnt want to ruin our friendship. Is our friendship over or what is going on? Why hasnt he called? I feel like I have lost my best friend. I acutally could cry cause I miss him and I may have runined our friendship that we have. I dont like the silence we are having right now. I know I should wait to hear from him. What should I do?

The next time you feel like revealing deep thoughts to somebody, please do it in person and not through a text message. I don't know what is going on with this guy but I do know that he is mulling over what you said and doesn't feel any pressure to ring you up to discuss it.
You only wrote that message this morning so give this guy a couple of days to respond. If he doesn't then you probably have your answer, he's not interested.
He also has alot going on right now. He's on disability(broke his leg in motor cross racing)so finances are tight, his grandma past way, trying to sell some of his stuff to pay for bills, his father is recovering open heart surgery.
Also this is our 3rd or 4th argument that we have had in the last 8 years. I believe we are hearts are stonger than our minds.
Hi Chamey101,
Just to let you know that we did talk about 30 minutes ago. He did get my messages this morning. He was in the middle of fixing up his bike that he's selling. He ran into alot problems and didnt have time to call back. He was having a buyer come to take a look at it. I know he was telling me the truth. We dont hide anything from each other. If he was not telling me the truth I would be able to tell in his voice and his answers. I just know this from knowing his habits and knowing him for 8 years. He is going out with his buddies and some of there friends that I dont know tonight. Which is fine with me cause some of my friends and I are going out very soon. We dont need to spend every waken momment with each other. I feel much better that we talked tonight. I just wish we had more time to talk. Oh well what can you do. I know that I will be able to talk to him when he gets home or next day.