Friends with benefits

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Friends with benefits
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 3:58am
I have been friends with a guy for five years, and recently our friendship has taken on the “friends with benefits” role. We have made out on several occasions, but when I try to talk to him about us being in relationship he says “He wouldn’t be a good boyfriend for me”. On top of all of this he has been seeing other girls during the time in which this has all been happening. I am confused because he says he would be a bad boyfriend, yet he is dating other people, and up until recently when I stopped it he was more than willing to keep up the physical part of the relationship. I feel like I have been in a relationship with him for three years even if we haven’t said the words to make it official. I also know that he has a mental illness which causes him to have major mood swings, but this is not an excuse for this behavior. My problem is that I want to remain friends with him because he is my most trusted friend, but I don’t know how I can separate myself from what has happened between us, because I have developed very strong feelings for him. My other friends say I should just forget about him and move on with my life. But I have tried and cannot seem to do so. What should I do??