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Friends before dating
| Sat, 11-04-2006 - 6:43pm |
I really like this guy who is very school oriented and I overheard that he didn't want a girlfriend because he was scared he wouldn't have time for her with all of his studies. The thing is I really like him, but I figure maybe if I become a closer friend with him maybe he'll take a chance. I don't mind the independence that he probably needs with school because I have my own life as well and I can wait. But it would be nice to have something there! How do you become friends with a guy you are romantically interested in without scaring him off?
Help!
Help!

Why don't you become friendly with him and not expect a relationship because you aren't going to get one. Nobody says he has to commit to marrying you because you are friendly. And nobody says you can't look around for other men while you are being friendly to this guy. School terms eventually end, summer is only 6 months away when he might have more time to date.
However, you need to take into consideration that this reason for not dating might only be an excuse. He might be gay, asexual or very very success driven, in which case you might not have a chance in the relationship department.
vanillaswirls..
Pianoguy thinks FRIENDSHIPS ARE GREAT! Simply because they can last indefinitely.
The problems begin when one partner WANTS or EXPECTS more out of that friendship that the other partner can't (OR WON'T) give.
So if you can be comfortable with just 'being a good friend' with no expectations for anything more...GO FOR IT! The man you're interested will probably understand you better if you don't 'push him too hard' for romance.
Good Luck!
Pianoguy