Friends to dating. . .update
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Friends to dating. . .update
| Mon, 11-26-2007 - 3:40pm |
There is a guy I have been friendly with (have been hanging out in groups since August). He asked me out more recently and we went out last weekend which was quite nice - but I feel he is so casual vs dating someone who I didn't start out as friends with (E.g. looks to me for suggestions for a place etc). We have communicated since and he told me he had a great time and we should meet up again soon. I have been encouraging and sent him back a positive email agreeing with him.
I had previously been confiding in him as far as some of my dating (but of course no longer). I can admit that I am already comfortable with him, so that makes things easier - also great personality and cute. Still, of course I am not exactly as open with him now. He was out of town and I was for part of this tgiving weekend, so he wished me happy tgiving and also said if it winds up we couldn't meet this weekend, then we should try again later. He doesn't know my schedule but I will be in Europe for work from tomorrow eve through sunday so this week will also not work. Wed eve was the last time we communicated. If it was like it was, i might have sent him a quick email when I wanted to since then -but now I think before I act. I feel he is taking longer to get back to me now too (i.e. hours vs. minutes).
I have actually not had this on my mind since last Wed eve but I am thinking again (i have a tendency to overthinkg). I find that it is almost a bit more casual because we already knew each other. Have you moved from dating someone you were more friends with? Was the transition awkward? How does this situation sound? I feel like he should know now I have given him the greenlight no? Or maybe he is even playing games? Thoughts?
Edited 11/26/2007 3:41 pm ET by girlmoi
I had previously been confiding in him as far as some of my dating (but of course no longer). I can admit that I am already comfortable with him, so that makes things easier - also great personality and cute. Still, of course I am not exactly as open with him now. He was out of town and I was for part of this tgiving weekend, so he wished me happy tgiving and also said if it winds up we couldn't meet this weekend, then we should try again later. He doesn't know my schedule but I will be in Europe for work from tomorrow eve through sunday so this week will also not work. Wed eve was the last time we communicated. If it was like it was, i might have sent him a quick email when I wanted to since then -but now I think before I act. I feel he is taking longer to get back to me now too (i.e. hours vs. minutes).
I have actually not had this on my mind since last Wed eve but I am thinking again (i have a tendency to overthinkg). I find that it is almost a bit more casual because we already knew each other. Have you moved from dating someone you were more friends with? Was the transition awkward? How does this situation sound? I feel like he should know now I have given him the greenlight no? Or maybe he is even playing games? Thoughts?
Edited 11/26/2007 3:41 pm ET by girlmoi

I really appreciate your post. In being his friend, he has always been chivalrous (thankfully). Pays for my drinks when we are out in a group, pays for taxi fully when we share even if he gets out first. So, I think overall he has potential.
But on that casual thing - needs to be dealt with. I did say when we were out last week that i'm not casual because he mentioned that people from the country I am originally from (and where he is from) are usually casual. I told him that I am very good with keeping outlook - so e.g. I had that outing in my outlook. He told me he keeps everything in his head.
When you say casual...do you and he mean casual sex, casual in terms of dating formalities or having established dating behavior patterns?
I was in Europe for work last week so just responding now. By casual I meant in terms of dating formalities etc.
We exchanged some very flirty emails while I was away. Somehow I ended up joking about an expensive restaurant here (Nobu) and he sent an email today saying we can discuss about that restaurant at brunch and said "how about this weekend"? SO perhaps he is getting better. We'll see.
I wonder why he is picking brunch again?