Is a friend's ex always off limits?

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Is a friend's ex always off limits?
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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 2:43am
At Jason & Tiffany's house Friday Jason told people him & Tiff weren't together..so later when most everybody left and we were alone he kissed me! It was very surprising because I'm 7 years younger than him and he's super hott and i've never thought I've even had a chance with him. i felt like what i was doing was wrong...but i was so excited that he was into me that i let it happen. so we kissed some more and touched each other and he told me that him & Tiff aren't doing good. then he called me & told me to keep what happened hush hush & i was going to because i don't want Tiffany to know...but he told people. He keeps calling me & I really like him & I can't make myself tell him to quit and I've seen him since then and we've kissed..and he's been to visit me twice at work. Hi m & Tiff are definitely over..but I saw her the other nite and I was so ashamed..and I was scared she'd say something because I thought she may know. I really like Tiff and she's always been so nice to me when we've been around each other. In fact I've kinda idolized her because she's so cool(I think that 's half the reason it was so amazing Jason liked me). I don't know what to do-should i quit talking to him even tho i could see something developing between us..should i tell her before someone else does? help!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-17-2006 - 10:21pm

loriefee...

PG's 2 questions are:

1.Is the shame you felt stronger than all the kissing the 2 of you did?

2.If you eventually wound up with Jason...are you prepared to lose Tiffany as a friend?

Think about answers to each of these...and 'clue' the rest of the ivillagers in when you're ready to reveal them?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 07-18-2006 - 3:27pm
I would say yes. I'm sure Tiffany still has feelings for Jason and she'll feel betrayed if you start dating him.

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Tue, 07-18-2006 - 6:09pm
The shame was definitely stronger than the kissing to answer question #1....but to answer #2 I wouldn't really mind losing Tiffany as a friend (if there wasn't alot of drama involved) like if she was just sad...and didn't speak to me I don't believe I'd mind because I can see a future with Jason...but if she wanted to beat me up & cussed me when I saw her out then I would mind losing her friendship. I'm not sure how she'd react. So I believe I need a tie breaking question...
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 07-19-2006 - 4:24pm
The fact that he told you to keep it hush hush shows that he is deceptive and sneaky so he probably only wants to use you. He sounds like a loser. You can do better.
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Thu, 07-20-2006 - 12:07pm

OK, here you go for a tie-breaking.

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Registered: 07-03-2006
Sat, 07-22-2006 - 3:49am
You mentioned a 7 year age difference, but how old are you? I ask this because the depth of a relationship one has at 25 may be worth lossing a friend over, where as relationships when we were 13 probally are not strong enough to loose friendships over.