Friends or More?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2006
Friends or More?
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:23am
So I started hanging out with this guy almost two months ago. In the beginning he had been relentlessly pursuing me. Since I was still so new to the area and had a lot of my plate I squashed anything that was starting to go in the direction of dating. When they attempted to be friends and the more I hung out with the more I realized I enjoyed his company and I began to show interest. He then turned around and told me he didn't think things would work out between us, so we went back to being friends until about two weeks ago. He decided to tell me his judgement in regards to "us" was wrong and he still had interest in me. Since then we have progressively hung out more, although I have been quite busy. Last week we hung out on Valentine's but it was more of a group gathering with dinner. He was occupied the rest of the week through the weekend with his family and I didn't expect to hear from him until middle of this week. I ended up receiving a phone call Sunday afternoon to hang out. I am not one that wants to rush into things, but I guess I am a little confused because of the back and forth we both did to begin with. We haven't really talked about it, I think we are both thinking a talk may make things awkward at this point. Should I just go with it for now and just see what happens or am I just setting myself up for disappointment?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 5:44pm
The wishy-washy behavior is definitely something to keep your eyes open about. I think it's fine for you to hang out with this guy the way you have - it sounds like there has not really been any romance yet. Before you do get romantic (assuming it goes that way), tell him that you like him but that due to his past actions, you want to make sure he's in it for real before putting your emotions on the line. And it's not that you doubt his sincerity at all but just that you want to make sure you're on the same page.

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