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| Sat, 07-31-2004 - 11:46pm |
We are both divorced parents and he has told me that he sees this as probably not being more than a friendship because of the children. However, while he says it's just a friendship he has put forth a tremendous amount of energy and attention towards me. He has gone out of his way to be there for me during some very heavy emotional times and has told me he "cares" for me. We talk about anything and everything and he has told me several personal things that he says he hasn't shared with others. There seems to be a physical attraction, though neither of us has made a move in that direction.
What I'm trying to understand is if his talk of friendship is simply a defense mechanism to avoid being hurt again or if a man can truly just have a close friendship with a woman and NOT have other feelings.
I should say here, as well, that I find myself having strong feelings for HIM...though I am unsure what to do about them at this point.
Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!

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You go girl!
And I hear ya on the not enjoying life without a partner thing...I'm trying to recast my thinking on that, because otherwise I get too depressed when I think about the strong possibility that I may well be single the rest of my life (I'm 45 and the dating pool seems pretty sparse). There's no question that I *want* a relationship and that my life is happiER when I'm in one, but I am doing all I can to make my life a happy and satisfying one without a romantic relationship, just in case!!!
Sheri
Thanks for the attitude adjustment. That one will keep me going for awhile! Until time goes on and I start to think..."HECK...how come Tammy Faye could get a man to marry her and I can't even GET a guy to buy me dinner...."
Oops...negative thinking.......gotta get rid of that!
Yup, I've been the initiator on a couple and guess what...NO REPLY!
I think the whole single mother thing scares most guys off and the fact that I'm not model material is probably another. Oh well...does the convent take those of us non-catholics? That's always a road...
:-)
Joanne
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