A frightening evening

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Registered: 04-14-2003
A frightening evening
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Sat, 09-30-2006 - 10:31am

...and it wasn't a date.

Last night I accompanied a good friend to the local book festival. He has some friends with whom to speak and I decided to walk around myself only to stumble upon this:

http://www.baltimorebookfestival.com/clfiles/Ladies.pdf

This shindig involved the editor of Cosmo and 5 book-shilling ladies talking about dating. There might have been 500 ladies in the audience eagerly soaking up what this event had to offer. The advice givers were very free with the:

Pretend that he....
Don't let him know that....
Let him think that....
Play down your....

These smug ladies felt that in order to trap a man a lady had to play more games than at an Olympics. Whatever happened to being honest and just being who you are? Here sat 500 women who probably had 500 great jobs, 500 houses, 500 bank accounts and yet they were getting advice to play down their accomplishments, their salaries in order to be successful in their dating life.

I lasted 20 minutes and walked out. I don't know what was more horrifying, the bad advice or the enthusiasm of the audience. There shouldn't have been an audience for this garbage.

Is the dating world really in that bad of a shape?

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 09-30-2006 - 10:54am
I agree with you!
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 09-30-2006 - 1:47pm

I'm with you, it is scary. I think the point it to not run after anyone (guy or otherwise) but to put enough of yourself out there so the other person knows that you have some level of interest.


My mother taught me something a long time ago... she always told me that if a person came to me and told me they have all the answers that I should run the other way. Seems like someone must have given you that advice too! LOL


I also think that many women expect the guys to act like a, b and c and if they don't, next. Whatever happened to just trying something different? Good advice from my brother--you're always the common denominator in every scenario. So if you keep getting the same results, you have to look at what you're doing. :o)


Thanks for sharing chamey!