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Frustrated
| Sat, 04-03-2004 - 10:39am |
I am in my late 40's and divorced and met a man on line last month who is divorced and in my age group. For the past 3 weeks we have talked over an hour each night on the phone and seem to get along very well. There is laughter and sharing of our lives and values. He mentioned meeting me once in one of our first emails and I have brought it up since then. We have each others pictures, phone and adresses both at home and work. He has not set a time for us to meet yet and I am finding myself getting more and more involved each time we speak. The problem is when we do meet what if there is no chemistry and I wonder why he is stalling in meeting me? We seem compatible and both are professionals is our community. I do not want to walk away from this but a month of it with no meeting? Any ideas out there?

Yes, my advice is to ask him to contact you when he would like to meet, and then move on (i.e., DO NOT continue to talk to him)
I think it comes down to what you can live with. If it's important to you to meet him now, then do what makes you happy. Some people wouldn't go past one month to meet an online person, others would wait months. I think the key is whichever way you choose, you do not place expectations on the meeting. Realize you may not 'click' in person. Be cautiously optimistic.
But personally I wouldn't put any sort of rules on things--life is not so hard set and rigid. Things happen at their own pace. Just follow your guts.