Genuine or a line?

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Registered: 09-30-2004
Genuine or a line?
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:31pm
Hi everyone, need a bit of advice here - if possible!! (Bear with me on this one!)To cut a long story short a postman at work came to the door 4 weeks ago, asked for my number and said he thought I was really nice(some of you might have read my older post), work couldnt give it to him etc, he said he understood that and said he'd try and catch me another time. The next day i signed for a parcel, he looked shocked, asked for his pen back, made a bit of conversation and then went without asking! 4 weeks later after leaving parcels at the door, ringing the bell then going, (and me convincing myself he obviously wasnt interested)my work colleague spoke to him, asked him if he remembered ME when he asked about having my number, he looked shocked then said yes and then said 'she is very pretty', my work colleague then said to him she's given me permission to give you her number if you want it..now comes the confusing bit:-

His reply was 'Now I'm in a bit of a predicament , i was thinking of packing my job up and going travelling for a bit', yet he still took the number when she asked him if he wanted it, this was this morning. I saw him straight afterwards in the car, he looked straight at me, caught my eye and carried on doing his rounds, now im wondering if this was just a line or if he was genuine, does like me and doesnt want to start anything because he honestly is thinking of going away? Also, he doesnt strike me as the confident type, and certainly not somebody who'd phone me to talk/text as he couldnt manage to ask me for my number when he saw me that time!Any advice would be great here, unsure of whether to leave it, wait to see if he phones, (although i'll still be wondering if he doesnt) or to leave it a few days and ask him for a drink? Any ideas if he is genuine or this is a polite way of saying no!

Thanks, Alice x

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 3:42pm
Hmmm. A toughie. It could be a number of things. Maybe he truly is going away and doesn't wish to start anything new. He could be a bit apprehensive about calling you because YOU didn't give him your number PERSONALLY. A friend gave it to him. Maybe he's confused. He could already be involved with someone and just thinks you're pretty.

At any rate, he does have your number and the ball is really in his court. I'd wait to see if he calls me and if he doesn't, just move on.
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 4:49pm
I wouldn't pursue this any further or you might appear a bit desperate. You've given him your number (which expressed your interest). Now the ball's in his court. If you don't hear from him (and don't sit around waiting BTW) then just forget it. It doesn't matter what the reason is if he doesn't call you (he's shy, he's travelling, he lost your #, blah blah blah) -- it amounts to the same thing: it's going nowhere.
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Registered: 11-04-2004
Thu, 11-04-2004 - 5:03pm
Sorry, Alice, I think this guy might be a nut case. Just hope he lost your number already. Best case scenario is that he is flaky. Worst case is that he will call you. Forget the whole thing!
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Registered: 09-30-2004
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 5:16pm
Hi zcip, just out of interest, any reasons why you think he's like this? lol just curious, it really is mad because like i said he was the one who asked for my number in the first place!! then announces yes she is very pretty, but im in a difficult situation because im thinking of packing my job in and going travelling = (fair enough) but why stare at me and catch my eye when he sees me or look over at where i work?? Lol and hasnt called yet either?? Any more ideas?

Alice x