get back together?

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Registered: 11-15-2004
get back together?
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:32am
Whats the best plan of action to get your ex back? has any one read any of the books/e books that guarantee this and if so what priceless information do they provide?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:55am
What were the circumstances that seperated you from him in the first place?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 10:07am
Sorry to tell you there are no "guarantees" in life. Personally I never have wanted to get an ex back b/c I don't care to make the same mistakes twice. Good luck.
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Registered: 11-15-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:42pm
It was a case of I didnt see him for a long time 3 months and during this time his feelings faded and he sent me a text to this effect. This is why i am wondering if it possible to regain this relationship when I see him again as it can not have been my actions that caused the split and he did feel strongly for me before he left. I have not seen him since.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:44pm
The problem with this relationship was there were no mistakes just temporary distance which caused his feelings to fade (and mine but i chose not to act on this). He will be coming back home soon and I will see him. Any suggestions? Thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 6:53pm
You got to be kidding yourself! Get back the guy who dumpped you over text? Why would you want to get back with such a low life type of individual? Don't you have self respect and are you that desperate?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 4:04am
I love him, its that simple. I'm not desperate but i can forgive him for umping me by text - he was a abroad. This guy was special to me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 5:26am

Hello Blondey,

Bellina here! I know how you feel when love doesn't fade away despite the distance
between you two. I've been in a somewhat similar relationship in the past. My love
nine years ago,G.M.,who was an entertainer in Vegas was constantly traveling with
his show to various cities in the west.We were involved for a year while his show
remained in Nevada and thought we were very much in love,seeing him after his long
work day,after his show ended,he'd never be tired for affections,made love and
chatted about everything under the sun,career,family,finances,common values,interests,
etc..Life seemed so exuberantly happy in his company and he declared loving me.
Until...he went to Branson for a gig,said he'd missed me,but called me nearly every
night.When he returned 2 weeks later,felt a coolness,not wanting to be intimate.Later
learned he met someone in Branson,who undoubtedly was heating his flames of desire
better than me. (The other woman) rang his cell,in which I answered while he was in the shower.She spoke very bluntly to me stating that Greg and her were in love! She didn't
know who I was nor did she care.I said really cause we seem to have something mutual
in common,Greg loves me too! I was devastated,hurt,but remained calm,she started to
cry.Said how can that be,he said I was the only girl in his life. All I can say is
that was the end of Mr.G(Elvis)m. tribute artist.He played his last tribute to
me!. Greg denied that this girl meant anything,said she was just a young fan who
loved Elvis(as he was a tribute singer).I was teary eyed,left him and said I
had a great deal of "Suspicous minds"(like the song goes).This was truly the
biggest heartache,sadness,love affairs to end in my life,til now.If I ever saw
G. again,part of me feels intense love,would like to rekindle such feelings.
I'm a bloody fool,and hopeless romantic.It could never be the same after
so much time(nearly a decade)has passed and the trust was shattered by his
affair. Despite G. saying he'd never see her again,and truly loved me,I
didn't forgive him.Perhaps this was only a onetime fling,but knowing his charm,handsome
likeness to Elvis,the girls would gather around just like the "real King" who broke Pricilla's heart.History on a smaller scale would be that way for me too. For your
fellow,it may be possible to find love again as he's not in the entertainment field,
less temptresses,groupies,etc..You can meet only if he's willing to give your
relationship another try.Take things a little slower,despite intimacies already,
just date without sleepovers. Communicate anything that has hindered you to a more
loving relationship,see if trust can be reestablished.Best of luck,Bellina

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 2:56pm
Has anyone read any books?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 3:12pm

I was kind of thinking the same thing.

In my opinion it wasn't "distance" even people in LDR's can make it work if there is effort, it's just that he wasn't into her enough to want it to work.

Leave this guy alone, he's definitely not worth this much effort.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 4:02pm
Read this one: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU

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