Getting back with an ex

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Getting back with an ex
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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 6:46pm

Lately I have been thinking of my ex boyfriend from high school. He was my first love and we dated for nine months when I broke up with him for really no reason at all, I was just immature and stupid. We kinda have been talking back and forth through college but we never have mentioned to each other about getting back together. A few times we were going to get together to see each other in college but never did because I was busy and stuff. I went to the same college he did for two years, then I transfered to a different college because of my current boyfriend. I went to the same college as my ex because of my ex. I still liked him. He is out of college now and has a job, an apartment and lives an hour away from where I am. I am a senior in college going to graduate in May. My ex's longest relationship has been a year. He is single now but "talking" to someone. He said that he isn't doing the long term stuff until he finds the right girl.
I have been seeing my current boyfriend for four and a half years now and I am engaged. He proposed to me over the summer. He is everything I want in a guy and I could see myself with him in my future but I have been thinking of my ex and wondering what if my ex is the right guy, and I want to see what it would be like if we got back together.
I have been crying over this and confused. I will be planning a wedding soon for the fall but I don't know if I'm ready to get married. I just would like to see my ex and see if there is anything between us anymore before I get married but I wouldn't want to screw up what I have with my current boyfriend right now. I haven't been the same for about a month because I've been thinking about my ex all the time, wanting to be with him. I don't know what to do.

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Registered: 11-27-2004
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 1:00am
So far, from your story.I think you still have feelings for your ex either because your scared of "until death do us part" commitment to one guy. Your ex said he hasnt found the right girl yet and he is not hinting that its you, then its not you...But if he is hinting that its you..then you have a good reason to get back with him...But your fiance had propose to you...Not a lot of guys have the guts to this, theyre scared of commitment...I say more points towards the fiance
If your fiance is cute, treats you well and have the qualities of a guy you want then dont just throw it away, like when you broke your ex's heart in HS.
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Registered: 11-29-2004
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 12:13pm
Since my ex hasn't been emailing me back when I've been telling him my feelings about us having a second chance and everything, he doesn't care about me anymore so I'm going to forget about him in my life too. He probably thinks that since I have been emailing him, that my relationship with my fiance isn't doing well but I'm happy with everything. I will have a better life than my ex. He will probably never find the right girl because the longest relationship hes ever been in is a year long.