Getting closure when a child is involved

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Getting closure when a child is involved
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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:52pm
My boyfriend of over 3 years broke up over a year ago, but we have a son together. In the back of my mind, I still hope that we can get back together and raise our family. He still flirts with me, but is involved with several different women. I want to get some closure, but it's hard because we still keep in touch and see each other because of our son. How do I let go and move on when there is a child involved?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 7:47pm
It's tough. You have to pull back to such an extent that you go from intimacy to abusiness like arrangement so that you can co-parent. I suggest that you arrange to NOT be around while he visits/picks up the child. This makes it harder on you to move on when you make yourself available to flirt...so don't be around. Drop off baby at his mom's house or have him visit at your place, but have someone else around. You don't need to be there while he's doing his thing with the child. Your only conversation with him is about the baby because that's all you've got going on...when he changes the conversation to more personal things, like family gossip or work gossip, stop it. You have to take care of you so that you can get over this man and move on with your life.