Getting the guy, help!!

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Registered: 11-20-2011
Getting the guy, help!!
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 3:42pm

Hi everybody. It has been a year since I asked for advice on how to be more flirty with guys and attract them, and it really helped me cause I think I 've boosted my confidence and got some guys too, even if nothing serious. I am an endlessly romantic person and I have always wanted to find something true, a guy that I would truly like and share my life with ( I am not the kind of party animal or ''having many friends'' person, so what I want is a real relationship to complete my cosy life). The good thing is, I have a friend since a year ago for who I have strong feelings and I think he likes me too. He is not the kind of experienced guy, he is shy but we match a lot, we have spent hours and hours talking about everything ( we are both the brainy type of person) and have travelled together, let's say that we have spent wonderful time together, and I am sure he has appreciated too. Since some time I think he has been flirty towards me, he grabs my hand often, hugs me a lot, say how much he appreciates me and some friends have seen these signs and are wondering if we are dating. Of course I can not tell with certainty how he feels, but I am strong enough and I have some signs to make the first step, and that's where I want advice! Shall I tell him with words? What to say and how to not make him uncomfortable? I have also been thinking to kiss him, but I don't know what excuse I shall use to get so close to him! I have never done this before, and it is the first time that I am thinking about really getting the guy, since all guys I have dated made the first move but I didn't really like them....Another thing is, we are very flirty when within a group of friends, but when just the two of us, it's really uncomfortable so that's a big step to make! Has anyone been there before and has good advice? or know a similar story and can help me? What do you think is the best thing to do? If anyone can help that would be great...:)