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Is GF wrong to visit,talk interest guys
| Thu, 10-04-2007 - 3:19pm |
Is what my GF doing in talking,flirting,being friends with,visiting with
| Thu, 10-04-2007 - 3:19pm |
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Uh, I'm having trouble believing this isn't a joke because her behavior is so outrageous.
Thanks for your comments.She says she is not picking them.She says that she loves me,is attracted to me,has a special connection to me,and wants to stay with me,etc.She says that she doesnt want to flirt,date them,and only wants to be casual to good friends with them.She sends me loving ecards and emails to me all the time.And she chats with me on messenger,and text messages me, and talks with me on the phone.She sounds so incredibly sincere,honest,truthful,when she expresses those feelings that she says she has for me to me.We share such love and intimacy when we are talking,chating,and are together.
I see what you are saying,although I think you misunderstand when you say she is picking these guys over me.Maybe she is maybe she isnt.She says she isnt.But I see what your saying.
I have talked with her about this.If she continues to talk with those guys,and be friends with them,and visit with them and date them,me and her will have a separation and simulated break up.
So when I talked to her the plan was for her to first see what you are all saying about how what she is doing is wrong.The reason for this is that maybe she really truthfully honestly doesnt see what she is doing is wrong, and thus needs people to point it out to her.Then she has 1 to 2 weeks to stop doing what she is doing with these guys, and if she doesnt stop, we will have that separation,and simulated break up.
The reason why I havent broke up with her,and am doing this separation,and simulated break up, is that there's that qoute "Sometimes you dont know what you got til its gone." Also I believe her when she says how much she loves me and wants to stay with me.Also I love her so very much.I believe her when she says she doesnt want to lose me.And earlier when I was feeling like I couldnt take it anymore or endure anymore.I gave her an ultimatum, that she stop doing what she was doing with those guys, or I was going to break up with her.I then asked her what her decision was, and she she didnt know.And so I told her I was breaking up with her.And when I did that, she begged me to please not do that. And then she started hyper ventilating,and panicking, and she was crying.And I thought she was going to die on me,or have a heart attack.And it was killing both me and her when I was going to break up with her.
So I when I got calmed down and when she got calmed down.I told her that the door was still open, and that I would give her 1 to 2 weeks to stop what she was doing with these guys, and that instead of breaking up with her, we would have a separation,and simulated break up instead.
So I see what you are saying,but what you are saying to do is easier said than done.
thanks for your comments
sincerely
Mike
"I have talked with her about this.If she continues to talk with those guys,and be friends with them,and visit with them and date them,me and her will have a separation and simulated break up."
Okay, I dont understand your methods and ways...but I'm not a guy.
I forgot to add something in my previous reply to you.
I can understand some of why you say what you say.I agree with a little of it,but disagree with some of it to.I dont think your understanding what I was saying, and are picking apart what I said,and not reading,listening,taking into context,the whole of everything I said.
as an example.What part of "she is naive,innocent,inexperienced" did you not understand.Its not just her word,but my own observations,of me,our friends,and her mother,and relatives of hers,that has shown that she is naive,innocent,inexperienced.
What part of "she doesnt seem to see that what she is doing is wrong with the other guys." didnt you understand. based on experience and observations, when she doesnt see that something is wrong,she will continue to do it, but when she understands that something is wrong,she most of the time
SasHaYa <3
First of all...the "what part of...did you not understand" is rude and condescending to say to someone who you are reaching out to for advice.
You are being rude,disrespectful,mean,harsh,assuming.You may not feel that you are,but you are being that way.First you pick apart everything I say and misread it and misunderstand it.Thats like people who read in the bible where it says that "God repented" and they pick apart scripture,and take 1 word out of context, and misread or misunderstand.
So since you do that,then asking what part of fill in the blank didnt you understand, is not being condescending.I wouldnt need to do that,if you wouldnt keep on forgeting,misunderstanding,assuming,being mean,harsh,disrespectful.Also the intent was to not be condescending,but to draw serious attention those specific things,since you seem to ignore,not read,not listen to,misunderstand,forget,assume,when it comes to those specific things.Also I am not biting a hand that offers advice.Note how I didnt respond to the first poster who gave advice, the way I responded to you.Thats because the first poster
Your probably right maybe I am being a doormat, and a wuss. My friend Jarret who has seen what she has been doing, says that I have been doing the right thing, and that I have been more than fair. When I talked to him about how if after a week or 2 or whenever gery goes to visit her,if she visits with him,and if talks with him,and if flirts,dates him,and if be friends with him, that I would then probably have a simulated separation from her,he said that I should then stick to that and not be a doormat and put my foot down.
Based on what you have said,it seems you are,would tell me the same thing as my friend jarret did.So you are probably right that I am being a doormat, and that I probably need to stop being or doing that. But I dont agree when you say that I need to grow up and get over myself.I am not obsessed about myself.And I dont think I am
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