Gifts for Coworker

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Registered: 10-12-2005
Gifts for Coworker
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Mon, 02-12-2007 - 8:09pm
I'm not sure if this is the right board for this question, but thought Id give it a try.
I am friends with a coworker who is married. I am not and currently single. He and I share alot of things in common and generally spend time together during work and after. I've never met his wife but imagine she is quite nice, although I don't believe they share all the same things in common he and I do; hence, our friendship. Anyway, my point is that he and I will buy little things for each other. Mostly work, cd related items. And sometimes he may bring those things to his home. I never asked, but suddlenly thought today, is that considered inappropriate? We are just platonic friends, but I wonder, if I were his wife, what I would think. I dont' know maybe its a silly question, but I was just looking for some viewpoints.....
Thanks for chiming in..
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 8:28am

Do me a favor, ask this man what he tells wife when he shows her the gifts you buy for him. If he doesn't admit they are from you then you can make a decision whether this is inappropriate or not.

If you want to make your platonic friendship with this man all okay, invite him and his wife over for dinner.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 11:23am
If I were his wife I would definitely be unhappy to think that another woman was exchanging gifts with my husband. And you say you have more in common with him on a lot of levels than she. Watch yourself - this could be dangerous territory. Why are you spending so much time with him AFTER work?
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