Give me Advice Please

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Give me Advice Please
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Tue, 12-21-2004 - 11:35am

Let me start from the beginning.

My boyfriend has been dropping hints that he got me a diamond ring for Christmas. I thought this was a big deal, and it meant that he wanted to take the next setp in our relationship (maybe not engagement) but maybe it meant he wanted to become closer. I know he got me a ring, because I saw the box. Well a couple of days ago, he told me that he had been thinking of our ten-month old relationship in terms of our future and marriage, and he became freaked out because he didn't know if I was "the one" he wanted to be with for the rest of his life. So he thought about it and thought about ending the relationship. I asked him why he didn't do it, and his response was because he loved me and that he did see potential. I got really angry and told him I didn't know if this was going to work out, because he was always unsure of things. Then he begged me not to do it, that he wanted to stay together, and so on. I'm just so confused by this whole incident, I mean does he want to stay with me or not? Should a man know somewhat within 10 months if he would like to be w/ a person in the future? Please help for I am clueless and distraught.

Edited 12/21/2004 12:59 pm ET ET by hyubin23




Edited 12/21/2004 2:55 pm ET ET by hyubin23
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-22-2004 - 10:34pm
The guy was open to you with his insecurities and you blew up on him? How is he supposed to trust you now? If he can't tell you the good and bad stuff, where is he supposed to turn?? Some other woman? Do you want him to talk to you or not?