Giving him a key to your place???
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Giving him a key to your place???
| Tue, 05-11-2004 - 1:14pm |
How long would/should one wait to give their boyfriend/girlfriend a key to their place? How soon is too soon, etc. I'm considering this, but for some reason thought maybe there should be a time table for something so big. It is a big deal right? Just curious! Any insight would be greatly appreciated :)

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My boyfriend doesn't work a normal 8-5 schedule, so there are many days when he doesn't rush off to work in the mornings like I do. Him having a key makes it possible for him to walk my dog for me or clean up around the house (of course he chooses to do those things on his own).
I don't think there is a specific guideline or time frame to follow. Just make sure you feel completely comfortable before giving him a key to your home.
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I don't have one to his house.... he doesn't lock it. Actually, I'm not even sure he has a key to his own house!!!
Thanks for all your opinions.
I have known my bf for about 3 years, but we have only been dating going on 6 months. We see each other at least 3 times a week, sometimes more. It just depends on our work schedules. We talk on the phone every day and we do introduce each other as boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. Sometimes my bf makes comments that imply a forward moving relationship. Not sure if he is 'joking' at the time, but he definitely makes comments about moving in with me and a few times the phrase "If we got married...." has come up. I'm not holding my breath at this point or getting anxious. I'm just enjoying what we have right now. He doesn't spend too much time at my place and we are always there at the same time. I dont have a key to his place, he is staying with his parents currently.
I do trust him after knowing him as a friend, as a bit more than a friend, and now as his girlfriend. So I did give him a key about two weeks ago. I didn't make it a big production, I have two extra keys and I asked him which one he wanted...different size heads, He picked one and I put it on his key ring. A little later I said "I gave you a key." and he said "yes you did, thank you." He's been to my house since, but has not used the key. He will still ring the door bell.
My reasons for giving him a key? well there were times when we would meet somewhere for dinner and head to my house. If he beat me there, he'd have to wait on me to get there before he can go in. Also the way my locks are right now, I have to lock the door after people. So if he stays over late or leaves early in the morning, I have to get up and lock the door after him. Now he can lock it whenever. I did mention that, and he was kind of shocked and asked if that was the only reason I gave him a key. (He wasn't upset, he was laughing about it but still wondered) Noooo, but it is one of the reasons. I also want him to know that I trust him and he is welcome in my house. I've meet a good deal of his family, but haven't introduced him to any of mine yet. That's a whole other story and I feel a little bad about that, so I want to make sure he knows I am serious about him. Thanks again for all the insight!
However, I waited about 6 months to do the same b/c it was a huge deal to me. In fact I think I gave him a card that said here is a key for you with heart around the keys taped in the card. It was a cute gesture.
I was very interested in your post, and the responses you received, because I have been wondering the same thing, lately.
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No, I don't have a problem
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