Going away to reconnect....

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Going away to reconnect....
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 10:13pm
I love my SO and he has said that he loves me. The thing is that he seems to take me for granted. In the beginning of our relationship, he would tell me that he loved me and missed me and he sounded excited to talk with me. Now, he only says "I Love You" when I say it to him first and when I tell him that I missed him (trying to get him to say that he at least missed me too), he says "I am sorry." He and I talked about my worries and he told me that yes, he was still in love with me, he wanted to be with me and he could see a future with me, but he still is like he was. I talked to a friend of mine who said that what I needed to do was to go away for a few days (no less than 2, but no more than 5), not call him except for maybe to tell him that I arrived and I was leaving my destination. She said this was kind of a way for him to figure out what life would be like without me and when I got back, he would either have missed me so much that it sort of jarred him out of this state he is in, or it would make him want to break it off, but either way, she said that it would help determine where we could go from there as far as our relationship. My question is, how many of you agree with this philosophy, and how many of you think the way I do, that this is sort of a manipulation on my part. I love him and this is the first man that I am actually not scared to think of a future with, so obviously that means something. I am just wondering if this is decent and the right thing to do? Please help!!!!!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 10:10pm
Hello liacarolina!