going in circles...!

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Registered: 08-14-2004
going in circles...!
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 9:15pm
Hey,

The guy I like got divorced about a year and a half ago...about 3 months ago he said he's not dating again for five years (He'll be 28 then), and that love sucks, girls have too many emotional problems, all girls are over-dramatic - why aren't there any sane women left on this planet, etc.....his ex-wife still calls and leaves mean messages on his cell, and really shoots down his self-esteem, luckily he has a lot of great friends...but he's ok flirting/ hitting on girls, and talking to them (and was doing that 3 months ago). I've gotten all this info from a mutual friend. I really like him, he's an amazing person, and i was wondering if you guys think he's ready for a relationship, if i should tell him i like him and see where that takes us, or just remain friends...?

Do you think he's flirting with girls, trying to get back his confidence with women, before he'll be confidenet enough to ask someone out...? Would he be ok if someone else, namely me, asked him out?

-Marilyn, friend of Liz Anne (Lizzy534)

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:56pm
It appears that this guy isn't over his divorce and his ex. Beside this he has a total negative attitude toward women. It is possible that he flirts and such because he's interested in having casual relationships only. If you want a casual relationship go ahead and ask him out. Probably it'll end up in just a fling.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 12:16am

So, you haven't talked to this man yourself?

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 8:59am
When people divorce, there is often a recovery period.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 08-14-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 1:00pm
they got divorced because she ran them into a lot of debt, and he only has a modest salary...plus he's back at college getting another degree (so he can earn more), but his having a lot of problems financially because of the debt she ran them into during their short marriage. there aren't any children.

-Marilyn

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 5:20pm
Not your place to tell him, but he really should tell her straight out to stop harrassing him or he will press charges. Otherwise, he could just change his number...

I think you should give the guy some space. Maybe talk to him and find out more about him, since he may not really be the guy you think he is. Offer a friendship, but don't be telling him you're interested. Get to know him and find out where he is.

Hopefully he will work through the issues with the ex.


Alison

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 7:54pm
Then I really don't understand why he allows her to call and harrass him.

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