Gonna give it a try!

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Gonna give it a try!
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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 1:27pm
Well,
I saw my older "friend"? (not a boyfriend, not a friend... we are somewhere in that dating no-man's land) again this weekend. Though he didn't call me all last week, I decided to see him when he called Friday night.
I had a great time.
I also saw him Monday, which was a holiday here. Again, terrific time. I've told my nosy friends to MYOB, where it concerns his age. And I've just focused on how good it feels when we spend time together.
This is my first series of dates in ten years... I am nervous!
Thanks to everyone here for their support.
L
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 4:17pm

<<<... we are somewhere in that dating no-man's land>>>

Do you want to get into a deal where you don't even know where you stand? A dating no-man's land kind of a deal doesn't sound so good to me. It can go either way, ya know? If I remember well, this guy is older than you and not so well kept, and you're not not even final in your divorce. However, if you're game, go fo it! He could be your rebound.

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 5:31pm
Hi!
It's not that I don't know where I stand... it is simply that we've been out about four times and only once were we alone. We aren't close enough yet to be "boyfriend" but he's not just "friend"... somewhere in between. If all goes as planned, though, maybe by next weekend or the week after, it will be "boyfriend". It just seems like such a silly word... you know?
We don't want to rush things, we want to get to know each other a bit. But, on the positive side, he did tell me that he doesn't want to see anyone else, and would appreciate that if I do decide to date someone else that I let him know first so he could step out of the picture... a polite way of saying "I would like it if we were exclusive". And yes, I asked him if that was what he meant. :)
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 8:03pm
Good luck.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:12am
Hi

I don't know the whole history but again, just do what is fun and safe for you. It sounds right now like you aren't looking for something serious but just to have fun times. If this guy is good fun and treats you well then enjoy it for what it is and don't mistake it for what it's not.

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:17am
That is GREAT advice. Thank you. I will keep that in mind. I tend to jump into things with both feet and damn the torpedoes! LOL! But I have to keep in mind that when it comes to relationships, I am not just dealing with my own feelings!
Thank you!