good advice from male friend
Find a Conversation
good advice from male friend
| Thu, 11-23-2006 - 12:32pm |
I fell in love online and met the guy over the summer. He lived long-distance and was already in love with another girl who wasn't available to him at the time, so I settled for just being platonic friends. To this day, he has been a wonderful friend and we speak on the phone several times a week and email each other, and I have dated others since that time, which has helped me to get over him. Since then he has been like a big brother giving advice to me. After hearing about my latest dating dilemna in which a guy has seemed to lose interest after only a month, this friend said, "I hope you don't mind me being so blunt, but you need to stop giving it up so quickly". Now I know that we gals always give this advice to each other, but to hear it from a man seems to sink in so much more, kind of like reading the book "he's just not that into you", which I highly recommend. I have been meeting alot of guys online, and I consider myself fairly attractive, although not a ravishing beauty or anything, but I now truly believe that a woman's attitude is what helps make her more attractive to a man than merely looks ever could. The next man I meet will have to wait longer than one month to get intimate with me, and I will have to decide first if HE is right for me, before trying to convince him that I am right for HIM. Hearing about my male friend's pursuit of this woman he is in love with but couldn't have until recently, only made me more convinced that if a guy really cares for you, he will wait. Words of wisdom to all my sisters out there. Happy Thanksgiving and love to you all!

I have had the same experience from a younger guy, he was coming on too strong. I thought I was the one who will be detached from him since it is just sex but it turned out that I am not really equipped to have casual sex. Probably in my 20s but now that I am in my 30s and a single mom I am more looking for a relationship.
The next time I date and I really like the guy, I would wait a month or even two. Men love the challenge, they will pursue you because sex for them with someone new is a real mystery. They fantasize about it about at least 90 percent of the time or something like that from a psychology magazine that I have read, lol. And there will be more respect and romance when we withhold it. Anyways own up to your womanhood and keep your pride and precious, wink, wink!!!
Never let someone pressure you into doing something before you are ready
Happy holidays to all