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Good sign??
| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 6:42pm |
Please read my post "Looking at me as a friend?"
I had sent a casual email to this guy "Haven't talked to you in a while... How's your long weekend coming along? Doing something special or just laying back and relaxing? drop me a line or call me .. whenever .."
The guy responded today early in the morning. At the end of the email he wrote "We should plan to meet .."
Is this a good sign, considering that he had not initiated contact since the past 2 weeks and I had to write him an email? or am I over-analysing it?
I want to meet him ... not to sound too excited in my response to him, please advise on sending him a positive reponse.
Thanks.

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I would respond with a simple, "great. Call me when you're ready to set up a time to meet for coffee. I'll look forward to hearing from you!"
And then put it out of your mind (and pursue other options) until he calls (if he calls).
Sheri
I sent him an email yesterday asking him to call me - "call me when you're ready to set up a day/time/place, we can then talk and plan."
To which he responded "What are your thoughts on how/when/where we meet??"
(1) Why can't he call me to discuss?
(2) Why do I have to take all the initiatives? Is it my responsibility to tell him when/where and how to meet? I would want the guy to just call me and talk about it so as to plan it together. He is leaving everything in my court or am I reading wrong?
(3) Is this guy really interested or is he a flake?
Good questions...only he knows the answers ;-)!
I would just write back, "well, give me a call and we can discuss". If he sends *another* email after that (other than to say, "ok I'll call you tonight" or something similar) then I'd write him off and not respond further.
Sheri
Well, I wouldn't want to make "his calling me" an issue here... I wouldn't want to force anyone to do something they don't want to do.
I think I'm pretty sure that if I write that in the email, things will not work and I don't want that to happen.
Could there be a chance that he just wants to know my opinion on probably what I might have in mind?
Well, ok, then!
I'm just saying what I would do...I personally can't stand it when a guy can't just pick up the phone and call and continues to email when I've politely asked him to call. I'm sure he does want your opinion on meeting, but can't he get that by calling you? It seems to me when a lady asks you to call her, you call her, if you're any sort of gentleman!!!
Sheri
Well, I put the ball back in his court ... here goes my reply
"This will drive us both crazy but I appreciate your asking me my thoughts on meeting. So here they are ...
How - set some time free, get ready, hop onto a train or get behind the wheels, read a novel or drive while listening to music and reach the point of destination.
When - next weekend, a weekend after that, 2 weekends after that .. sept 4/long weekend ...
Where - either in my city or somewhere in the middle."
I agree 100% .. if he doesn't call, then he is not the type of man I would go in for. If he's deson't call then the 3rd point that comes to my mind is he is not interested, is only a flake and will disappear.
Thanks, asaff27! How is it going with you?
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