Good/bad things with a new girl
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| Fri, 02-16-2007 - 9:38pm |
Hey all, I know this board is mostly used by women, but I posted here a few times before and have always found the advice useful...so heres goes.
I recently broke things off with my ex. Also recently I've met a new girl. She is easy to talk to, fun to spend time with and I am extremely interested and attracted in her.
The only problem is that she is currently seeing someone. This guy shes seeing though treats her like complete crap. Their relationship is so bad that she hasnt even seen him in 3 weeks almost. He'd rather be with his friends than his girlfriend.
So last night we are just sitting on my couch and starting talking. Talking was as far as it went, but god was it amazing. I learned so much more about her and she did the same with me. We decided to say something true about the other person and then that person would return something they think about that person that is true as well. From that we both learned that we are attracted to each other, that we like spending time together and that we do want to be together. She also mentioned how she liked that I payed attention to the little things about her that her current partner could careless about. We ended things with a hug and it was just the perfect night all around.
My only problem though, is that although her partner treats her like complete you know what, she seems somewhat hesitant to break up with him. I don't know if its the fact that we've only known each other a little while and have only just started having long phone conversations and hanging out, or that she really just wants to be with him rather than me. When we're in person things are amazing, we get along great and I get the impression she wants to be with me, but when she brings up her bf she constantly complains but yet never does anything about it.
I was thinking about asking her straight forward after a few more hangouts that she needs to make a decision, but I don't want to be pushy, but at the same time who would want to be with someone who wouldn't even give you the light of day? It just doesn't make sense to me.
Any help/advice as to how I should approach this situation would be very very helpful.

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man ppl really get into their stuff here haha...
Yeah we pretty much don't talk anymore and haven't for the past few days....I explained to her when i said I'd wait for her, it meant that when and if she was ever ready she could give me a call and let me know. If she wants to let herself get treated like dirt, it's her fault and I let her know that, but in a nice way haha
<< Yeah we pretty much don't talk anymore and haven't for the past few days....I explained to her when i said I'd wait for her, it meant that when and if she was ever ready she could give me a call and let me know.>>
Ummm, ok ... then, why didn't you say that! What you said there (above) is a far cry from all of the "I'm going to be there for her, I intend to make this work" talk just a couple posts ago.
Because << when i said I'd wait for her, it meant that when and if she was ever ready she could give me a call and let me know. >> ... those two things ... waiting for her and "if she was ever ready she could give me a call" don't mean anywhere near the same thing.
Sorry, but ... sounds like you're changing your story ... most likely as a result of her not having called you for the last few days ... rather than a conscious decision to let her go.
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