Got rejected but need to be friends
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| Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:07pm |
I asked a girl for a date who has been my friend for awhile.
I'm pretty sure she knew how I felt about her beforehand as girls are keen to that.
Anyway she said "she will consider it".
A few days later, she EMAILED me saying she's not rejecting me but was in a bad relationship plus other baggage. Now she is over that experience but she has no feelings for dating in general and believes no one can make her happy. She don't want me to date her cuz she believes I will be hurt by her and doesn't want to hurt a good friend.
That's pretty much it. She then said she will be on vacation but checking email.
Now I'm wondering how to reply to that.
I'm not one to hold a grudge becuz i got turned down. Its fair.
I don't want to make things awkward and I don't want to sound needy/desparate or easily attainable. At the same time I don't want to close the door. I still want to seem like a catch. Although I don't think anything good can happen due to the baggage.

Thanks lightandbright! You are absolutely right.
And she has said that she feels she is the only one who could make herself happy.
I was thinking of replying briefly something like this:
expressing that i'm sorry to hear what has happened to her.
I wish she would've let me know about them and if I knew I would
not have done anything to invoke these negative feelings.
I understand how she's feels but lets not stop us from chilling again.
Then I wish her well and suggest to have a few beers when she gets back.
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I hope that sounds friendly and non-pressuring and putting me in a dignified light.
I don't want things to be awkward.
Well I'm concerned with any awkwardness now.
As far as my feelings go, I have a strange quirk where once I get turned down or rejected its a huge turnoff for me and in my mind I start looking for the next girl. For me, its her loss. I bear no grudges because everyone has a choice whether its a valid reason or just not attracted.
I still would like to be friends but I don't know if I could be the same person I was before with her. Like in my mind, I'm thinking I have to watch what I say or she may get the wrong impression. I guess be me just not very attentive?