great guy...but he is moving cities soon

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Registered: 10-18-2003
great guy...but he is moving cities soon
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:52am

confused...in my head i realize the answers, in my heart i'm sad

I met a great GREAT guy 3 weeks ago. and i couldn't resist his attention and his charm - so we started going out a week after we met. problem is that he is leaving the country in 2 weeks and there is no way he can stay for good or prolong or continue our story. because 3 days ago he asked me not to get attached...

our story evolved way too fast for me - maybe its because i knew i will lose him soon and i wanted to enjoy every minute of his company. he is real sweet and although he always claims that he is not sensitive, that long term relationships and marriage freak him out (all this bachelor at 33 talks), i realize how sensitive he is - after he told me all about his love stories and frustrations, after he read me little poems he wrote, after i found a box of choco in my laundry bag, the one he took to his place to let me use his washing machine...after all the million of little surprises i got from him all this time i have known him.. such attentive person.. and such a big heart he has..

a week ago he started avoiding me - after our late night talk about life, relationships.. we didnt touch 'us' subject though.. its way too sensitive.. it was sharing about past and our thinking...he suddenly closed down..i asked if i offended him.. he came back saying that its nothing, that he didnt get offended..but this week we went out just once...and things reeeeeeealy slowed down. its 3rd day he hasn't called

i realize that he is leaving soon and that its silly to think of this story, that i need to accept things as they are and to be happy i lived this great story. coz he made me forget my crappy sad story with bf of 4 yrs and to move on. i'm just afraid that i moved from one sadness to another... how silly...

i ask myself why he created that distance - he still has 2 weeks to live here. when we met last thursday he kissed me all over (we haven't met tue & wed), we had a great go out. but late at night he told me that he has never met anyone like me, but i should not to get attached to him - because he doesn't want me to get hurt when he leaves...

so its 3 days i had no news from him and being bored today i called. got on his voice mail. he still hasn't called back. i'm confused.. is he doing it to ease the pain of separation? coz we were moving way too fast and i met all his friends here and got into his life too much? or because i was just a girlfriend for 2 weeks?

i'm totally sure that he respects me, that everything he said to me was true and that he really feels it. coz u can feel the honesty plus all his actions... but i feel sad of how things got and i'm a bit lost in this big city i moved to 3.5 weeks ago and which is all about him for me at the moment.. coz he was there at the start..

long weekend here and i have no clue how to spend time in order to enjoy it... no clue