The Great Walking Wounded
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The Great Walking Wounded
| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:30pm |
Why can't men move on after a break-up? I have been dumped plenty of times by men but after a short period of grieving, have always been open to date new guys and give them a chance rather than adopt the 'all men are bastards' mentality. But not guys! In the past year nearly all the guys I have dated have used the Broken Heart and Torch Carrying excuse to be commitment-phobes. I have been chatting to one guy online for 8 months and though we have/had a good rapport online he refuses to even talk to me in real life on the phone as he says his ex-girlfriend hurt him and he cannot trust women after that and his heart is surrounded by ice and other nonsense. I have now given up and we no longer even chat or email each other and I am sorry since I liked him and thought eventually the 'ice' would 'melt' but think after 8 months he is simply being self-indulgent. He is not the only guy like this..i have dated others who are still 'broken men' after having been dumped like, 5 years ago!!! Do you think women move on quicker because of some primeval biological urge to nest and have kids or something i.e. the biological clock? Why can't this guy GET OVER IT??

I think that's a big fat excuse. He's probably married or otherwise involved.
And if it's really the truth, then he's not an emotionally healthy and mature person. A healthy adult who was having that much trouble moving on would get help.
Sheri
You call those guys "cripples" and move on immediately after they tell you their first story of woe.
Of course, now that you dumped this guy after 8 months he has made up some horrible story about you and how you devastated him. He is busy telling it to more women he just met on the net.
Avoid these guys, there are plenty of great noncripples available and also plenty of good therapists out there that can help the cripples get over the evil women that hurt them.