Like guy in class - what to do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Like guy in class - what to do?
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 12:40am

Hi,

So I'm back in class after 7 years out of the scene.. just started an MBA. There's a guy in the class I have my eye on... but I obviously have no idea if he'd be interested in going out with me. I don't even know if he has a girlfriend. I walked out of the class with him tonight and there were 3 of us walking together.. myself and another girl. I said to them both that I was going to go off to find some food because we had been in there since 5 and starving, did they want to join me and the guy said, "I think I'm just gonna go home to bed, it's kind of too late to eat now"... it was 10.15pm. I have a few questions -

1.Do you think I should assume from that comment that he's not interested in me?

2. I've chatted with him a couple of times fairly briefly, but I don't want to be completely obvious that I'm interested. What can I do to figure out if he's at all interested in me?

3. If he is single, do you think he'd have decided if he liked me or not on the first night of class when we first met?

4. Is there a 'right' amount of time expected in a situation like this before expressing interest and/or dating someone in the class?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 2:37pm

Do you catch him acknowledging you, looking at you or smiling at you? With some guys, it is pretty easy to tell if they like us...others could be very guarded or shy. And it is also perfectly possible that he hasn't decided anything about you yet or does not look at you the way you look at him. Perhaps he does have a gf. I really can't tell much from what you shared. Perhaps 10 in the night (and espeically with classmates he doesnt know well) was really late for him. I wouldn't have been comfortable going either. Maybe next time you could try something similar at an earlier hour and see his reaction. I would not push it too, and give him a chance to get to know you in a natural way. If you sit next to him or somewhere around him, then before or after class you could get talking to him, ask him stuff about the class, about school and work and family etc. You could easily have a talk in class itself and get to know him better, without going out anywhere. Or you could walk out with him to your cars after class and have a talk that way. Getting to know classmates and making friends that way is quite a normal thing. U should know pretty soon if he likes you. If you feel he is avoiding or isn't that friendly as you are to him, or you find yourself taking the initiative everytime, then just withdraw and leave him alone. Goodluck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 3:31pm

You can't necessarily tell from that comment that he isn't interested. He knows it's not his last opportunity to see you, after all. Right now it's good to get to know him in a group situation and see what if anything happens.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 11:30am
There is nothing wrong with letting him know that you are interested...why should that be a secret?? If you feel anxious about making a pass and being turned down, ask him out when the class is over. But ask him out. Nothing ventured nothing gained.