This Guy that I've been "seeing"

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Registered: 01-17-2006
This Guy that I've been "seeing"
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:19pm

So I've been seeing this guy probably like 3-4 weeks now on occasion b/c we live 45min away from one another.

Well Saturday we ended up not hanging out together and I went out w/ friends (Most ALL my friends are guys)So anyway that led to this email...

1st he said....
Just want to say good morning and I can’t wait to see you tomorrow night.
Hope your day is going good?
And yes I do care about you!! I forgot to ask you about it yesterday but I do remember you asking me that Saturday night. what made you ask me that question????

I Said...
Saturday night on the phone I asked you that??
I don't remember. Probably b/c of the 1shot of 4 (crown)
Yeah So thanks for the answer tho.

He said...
What are you havin doubts or regrets or what?? Because I just still don’t understand why you were so insistent on asking me that question a couple of times. Then you going and getting totally sh*t faced to were you don’t remember and having some guy bring you home you barely no. I can trust you but it is other guys I do not trust. So I am pissed that you did that with out me there with you. I am not saying you can not go out and have fun with out me but please be more responsible!!! I can’t stop caring about you but I am not going to stick around if that is what you are going to continue to do with out me or your close friends there with you.


Now I don't want a serious relationship w/ this guy and he knows that I'm WILD and CRAZY PARTY type so why would he even assume it'd be like that???
SO would it be too harsh to break it to him like...

Alright first of all let’s get something straight I was sh*t faced before I called and asked you that question. I don’t remember ever calling you. I asked it “several times” I suppose because I was sh*t faced!

Second the guy that brought me home (wasn’t the guy that bought me the shot) I know him well enough to know he would not do anything to harm me or let anything happen to me. And well if you trusted me than this would not even be an issue to you. I don’t really care if you trust the guys or not, pretty much every single one of my friends is a guy and I’m sorry if you can’t trust one or any of them that’s your issue. Really what reason do you have to be pissed at me? You don’t! I’m a big girl and I can take care of myself. I am responsible that is why I always go with my guy friends because I know that they’ll stay mostly or completely sober so NOTHING happens to me.
I’m sorry if I’m being a b*tch but seriously I’m not going through this sh*t again with ANY guy no matter how much I like them. It is a bunch of childish bullsh*t. I do what I want when I want and most the time I get what I want. So why are you asking me to change when you knew that already?

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Registered: 09-25-2003

You were sh.it faced (to the point of not remembering calling) and called him to ask if he cared about you?

In your previous post you said: "I never really wanted him or anything I just liked him as a friend..........."

Then you got together with him and it changed to: "But I want advice he seems like a really sweet guy. But he's young insecure and inexperienced. I don't want to corrupt him too much but I do want to be with him now. I do have to find a way to teach a guy how to do sexual things."

I'm sorry, but from the outside, it looks like you've just manipulated the poor boy to get him to tell you he cares about you, so you can bring him down. It doesn't sound like you're interested in HIM but more what him hanging around you can do to build your ego.

"I do what I want when I want and most the time I get what I want."

That attitude will get you nothing that you want. Ok...well it might for a while, but it will never last.

You sound pretty cruel and heartless and I think you should let the guy go and find someone who will treat him well, not as a toy to be played with. He sounds responsible and seems to care a whole lot more for your welfare than you do.

Getting drunk to the point of not remembering things is irresponsible and dangerous, particularly for a girl... Then again, you won't listen to anything I say, because you do what you want, when you want.....

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Registered: 05-31-2005

OUCH! That email is definitely